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Nurturing intimacy inside of our relationships looks like:
Asking questions
Listening
Really caring about what the other person is saying
Following up
Taking an interest and being invested in who they are as a person
Noticing when we are constantly leading or dominating the…

Gaslighting can look like someone attempting to convince you that you never said something you repeated several times. Not listening can be a tactic when people don't want to change or adhere to what's said.

People constantly looking for a reason when they know the truth are gaslighting you. It's not ghosting when they did something and you decided not to continue a relationship with them.

If you find yourself feeling anxious or upset after rereading certain text messages, it might be time to let them go. You deserve to feel safe and happy, and sometimes that means saying goodbye to things that no longer serve you.

Apologies do not entitle you to reconciliation.

Healing is an option, just as harming others is an option. Sometimes we prevent people from addressing their issues because we are helping them pretend that they don't have any. Holding people accountable can be an excellent way to care for yourself.

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When you love what you do, creating boundaries may be difficult. Enjoying your work doesn't mean that you should work endlessly. Love your job and have boundaries with how and when you work.

A part of loving people as they are is reading that some of the people you love aren't able to be present in your life because of who they are.

You can tolerate mistreatment for so long that when you finally let it go, you feel an enormous amount of guilt. You didn't do anything wrong. Guilt is a product of caring and compassion for the other person.

Instead of being accountable, someone is somewhere being offended.

My top new reads for 2023 explore:
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-Setting boundaries & detecting scams
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-Inventing our world & ourselves
-Pursuing happiness & wonder
-Finding motivation & meaning

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If you don't uphold your boundaries, others won't either.

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The people who thrive on sharing everyone else business seem to be the same people who ask a lot of personal questions.

The people who require the most energy from you seem to be the same people who desire frequent contact.

With love, what you do is as important as what you say. Love is seen and heard.