safeandtogetherinstitute.com/podcast-interv… listen to me being interviewed by David Niven past chair of the British Association of Social Workers BASW about my book

That's not real change...real change is 'I know I hurt you and broke your trust. I won't do that again, and I recognize that you may never trust me again. That's not for me to decide. I respect your right to autonomy, to not be in relationship. I don't get to dictate your feeling…

With parents who have engaged in domestic abuse and coercive control, the standard for assessing contact should include their willingness and ability to acknowledge and repair the harm caused by their behaviors. This is not a naive expectation of change. It’s about raising the…

Not acknowledging when we harmed someone is a continuation of the harm. It causes deep pain & harms our ability to be connected in authentic ways with each other.

correct its judgemental people who say this stuff or authorities and proffesionals that don't want to do the job they are paid to do ??? this is my experience

why don't we stop the abusers abusing ??? is that a radical thought. ??

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Big shout-out to principal Mark Merry, whose leadership has been exemplary following the misogynistic, threatening sexual categorisation of female students by some Year 11 boys.

This interview with Patricia Karvelas is a revelation. 1/
abc.net.au/listen/program…

David Mandel Had a doctor ask me one time when I told him about the abuse.... 'why didn't you just leave'.
Oh, because I forgot to tell you what happened to me AFTER I left, and that made leaving seem like a playdate with 10 of the most adorable puppies ever.
Honestly, if you don't have…

This gentleman- for anyone who, you know, *cares* -is down in the trenches of our human family’s current societal dysfunction. I believe it could only benefit a person to be willing, in their own life- today- to work very hard to become really *really* familiar with his work.

Professional arrogance about survivors’ choices has no place in the work

So let’s stop saying survivors are “in denial” if they won’t leave just because you think it’s a good idea or are afraid. And while we’re at it, let’s also stop saying she needs to do it “for the children” when you don’t know if leaving means a dead mother, homelessness, or…

An emotional day.. The paper back copy of my book, Unbroken, w/ the award stickers is here!! 😭Also just found an original mockup of my book cover. What do you think? I'm happy with what we went with but I also love what could have been. Kind of like two star crossed lovers ✨❤️

It’s as simple as that 👏

We shouldn’t be focused on the presence or absence of fathers but instead the quality of men’s parenting, whether the couple remains together or not. The solution can never be just men in the household. We actually care about the quality of men’s parenting and parenting because…

David Mandel Literal court notes:

When will Australian law empower the victim to STAY IN THEIR HOME, and make the abuser leave?
“Why doesn’t (she) leave?!”
Current ‘normal’ is that the emotionally, physically, psychologically destroyed person is required to abandon EVERYTHING that makes them feel secure.

ICYMI

ICYMI

This from a country that has recently been named host of a UN commission on women’s rights and is keen on bidding for the next Fifa Women’s World Cup. Unacceptable.